Why Trying to Find Balance Is Futile
Have you ever chased balance in your life? I can’t count how many times I’ve cried out, “If I could just find a balance, then everything would be better.” Things would be manageable, under control and therefore within my power to handle on my own.
Sitting in Bible study one morning, as a friend shared about needing to find balance in her life, the Holy Spirit softly whispered to my heart: “Maybe balance isn’t the goal; maybe the goal needs to be getting anchored.”
I mentioned the idea to the group, and one of the ladies reflected on just how elusive balance really is. If you consider a pendulum, she said, it’s only perfectly balanced in the middle for the slightest moment in time; the rest of the time it’s swinging from one end of the spectrum to the other.
Like we do, right?
So maybe the goal really isn’t that elusive moment called balance that ends just as quickly as it starts. Maybe our goal should be to get anchored.
In what? I immediately thought of Hebrews 6:19. Here it is in context of verses 17 through 20:
Thus God, determining to show more abundantly to the heirs of promise the immutability of His counsel, confirmed it by an oath, that by two immutable things, in which it is impossible for God to lie, we might have strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold of the hope set before us. This hope we have as an anchor of the soul, both sure and steadfast, and which enters the Presence behind the veil, where the forerunner has entered for us, even Jesus, having become High Priest forever according to the order of Melchizedek (emphasis mine).
We get anchored when we lay hold of the hope set before us. This hope is an anchor of the soul! Every time I encounter that phrase it does something to my soul!
I long for my soul to be anchored in hope! Hope that is sure and steadfast. Hope that enters the Presence of God our Father. Hope that has gone before us and intercedes for us. That hope IS Jesus!
Anchor in the Greek is agkyrai, which metaphorically refers to a stay or safeguard.[i] It is the same as agkalē, which is “the curve or inner angle of the arm, the bent arm.”[ii] The image that comes to my mind is one of being safely tucked into the inner curve of the Father’s arm!
So we get anchored by crawling into God’s arms and putting our hope in Christ alone!
If we lose sight or let go of our hope in Christ – if we get our eyes off Him and onto this world or our own flesh – we are sure to find ourselves “out of balance.”
Want to know what that looks like? James describes it perfectly in James 1:5-8:
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways (emphasis mine).
If we anchor our hope in anything but Jesus, it is the result of doubt, because seriously, if we believe Jesus and what the word of God says about Him, we will not look to anything else to be our hope. I don’t say that from a place of mastery. I say it from a place of being knocked around by the wind as I’ve tried to put my hope in myself and other people and things. I always end up beat up, exhausted and coughing up the remnants of saltwater ingested in the battle with the sea!
When I start entertaining “if…then…” scenarios that have nothing to do with scripture and everything to do with my attempts to control things in my own efforts, then I am unmoored. I’m trying to anchor my hope in something other than Jesus, saying things like, “If I can just get everything on my list done, then I can relax.” Or, “If I can just figure out the right school for my daughter, then everything will be okay.” Or, “If I can just get my children involved in all the right activities, then they’ll be accepted and on the path to success.”
The thing is, I’m not in control of the then, and attempting the if is what makes me unstable!
The good news is the minute we get our focus back on Jesus as our only hope, He anchors us back to Him and gives us peace. Even if the sea still rages, we are anchored. We aren’t going anywhere. We are safe and securely tucked in His arms, and He is in control of everything, including the wind and the waves.
If life feels unstable to you today, perhaps your hope is in something or someone other than Jesus. Perhaps your entertaining a scenario you think will bring balance and that very mindset is what’s whipping up the seas that are throwing you off balance.
Jesus is the hope that is the anchor of our soul. Let’s confess our unbelief and our desire to be in control and let us anchor our hope to Him.
[i] "Greek Lexicon :: G45 (NKJV)." Blue Letter Bible. Web. 8 Jan, 2016. <http://www.blueletterbible.orghttps://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon/lexicon.cfm>.
[ii] "Greek Lexicon :: G43 (NKJV)." Blue Letter Bible. Web. 8 Jan, 2016. <http://www.blueletterbible.orghttps://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon/lexicon.cfm>.